Why do YOU get to decide what I’m allowed to have?

As I continue to grow quite weary of the debate over DADT and gay marriage, the one question that sticks in my craw is: why do you get to decide what civil rights I’m allowed?  I don’t really care if you approve or like people in the LGBTQ community, but that is not the point.  The focus should be regardless of how you may feel, you don’t have the right to deny us homos the same civil rights everyone else in the United States is entitled to.  I don’t care how you feel about gay marriage, but you don’t have the right to deny my husband and I the right to marry and if you do, then do we get to stop paying taxes?  Your feelings about the LGBTQ community DON’T MATTER!  You don’t have to be friends with us or like us, but you don’t have the right to kill, bully, deny us civil rights, deny us housing, deny us health care, or deny us employment.  So, please feel free to hate as much as you like, but your hate does not allow you to dictate federal laws.  For those of you that I hear saying, I just don’t know any gay folk, well pay attention!  Is it safe for us to be visible?