Teen Moms Revisited…

30 Dec

My friend Jen Lockett helped to inspire this story by sending me several articles–thanks Jen. Back in September I did a post on Teen Mom a reality TV show.  I also quoted some statistics from that month’s Hapers that showed how teenage boys want to get young girls pregnant as a badge of honor.  I was quite upset in September because the show seemed to intentionally shy away from the choice of abortion.  I’m happy to report that has changed and Bravo to MTV for finally showing abortion as an option.  While I will not become a follower of the show, I am proud of the young woman, Markai Durham.  One of her best arguments is:

You have made me into a character for your amusement and nothing else. My motive for this episode is to not say ‘hey look at me I got pregnant again,’ ” she wrote Monday. “One thing we can all agree on is no one is pro-abortion! … No one wants to have an abortion or even go through this type of procedure. I never did it because I thought it was the right thing to do. I did it because it was the BEST thing to do for my family.

Having known several women that have had abortions, I know it was one of the most difficult decisions they had to make.  We men don’t ever have to make such difficult decisions about our own bodies.  It is very easy to see how you CAN BE BOTH pro-choice and pro-child. I’m often shocked and amazed at the arrogance and self-righteousness of anti-choice folks. I’m also tired of the media referring to these people as pro-lifer.  Sorry, they are not.  Can we use language correctly?  They are anti-choice.  Click here to see the full article.

4 Responses to “Teen Moms Revisited…”

  1. Jennifer December 30, 2010 at 8:07 am #

    I watched the episode. It was very sad and heart-wrenching. It showed the public how difficult this choice and action is on all parties and the emotional toll that it takes.

    It was interesting, the show pointed out many statistics, including the fact that one in three women will terminate a pregnancy (meaning that all of us, whether we know it or not, know a woman that has had an abortion) and that 50% of pregnancies are unplanned. Also, more than half of teen moms will become pregnant again within two years.

    It’s shameful that in this country we refuse to have open discussions about birth control, truly giving women the tools to control their reproduction as they see fit. I’ve never understood why people who are so ‘anti-abortion’ are also so ‘anti-birthcontrol’ or ‘anti-sex education.’

    • Michael Hulshof-Schmidt December 30, 2010 at 8:12 am #

      Jen, thanks for the comment. Your last paragraph is so very powerful; it should be mandatory reading.

  2. Jennifer December 30, 2010 at 8:24 am #

    I know that you don’t watch the show, Michael, but if you did, a few things are evident:

    1) Out of all the girls on there, none of them were using birth-control when they got pregnant
    2) Their parents believed that their child ‘wasn’t having sex’ (most of the parents make reference to teaching their children that you don’t have sex outside of marriage – abstinence only).

    3) **most important** teen pregnancy is 100% preventable with education and available family planning resources (i.e. counsellors that they can speak with and birth control).

    • Michael Hulshof-Schmidt December 30, 2010 at 8:32 am #

      I would like to add that Planned Parenthood will provide all of this for free if you are not able to afford this type of health care!

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