Thank you to my friend and fierce LGBT ally, Jennifer Lockett for inspiring this story. While I am cisgender, (my gender assigned at birth matches the gender I identify with) we have brothers and sisters all over the world who are transgender. Just as I knew I was gay when I was five, although I did not have the language then, there are very young kids know their gender does not match what the doctor told them.
Jonas and Wyatt Maines were born identical twins, but Wyatt knew at age four that her gender did not match what the doctor assigned at birth. Even Wyatt’s twin brother was aware that he had a sister, as he reported to his dad at age four, “Dad, you might as well face it,’’ Wayne recalls Jonas saying. “You have a son and a daughter.’’
While the parents of these two amazing kids have had a difficult but rewarding journey, I’m in awe of them and I applaud these parents for recognizing they have a beautiful son and a beautiful daughter. Their children have courage and know who they are. I have to underscore how important it is that children now have access to puberty blockers and hormone therapies, so that kids can go through puberty as the gender they identify as.
There is a wonderful organization called TransActive which specifically addresses the needs of transgender and gender non-conforming youth. If you know a family struggling with the need for resources, I encourage you to contact TransActive. Click here to read more about Wyatt and Jonas.