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National Coming Out Day: Visibility

11 Oct
National Coming Out Day

National Coming Out Day

October 11 marks National Coming Out Day.  For those of you who had any questions regarding my sexual orientation, allow me to put all questions to rest.  I’m a very proud gay man.  One might ask, so what? Why announce it? Why do I insist on being so visible? Why do we need a National Coming Out Day?

I cannot underscore enough the importance of being out and visible.  The more visible we are as a community, the more difficult it is to marginalize us and treat us as sub-human, or second class citizens, denied over 1,300 rights that our heterosexual brothers and sisters are granted just for being heterosexual.

Currently there are 29 states — over half of the US — where it is still legal to actively discriminate against LGBT folk.  Yes, in 29 states one can be fired for being gay. Not a big surprise that no state in the South has the slightest protection for the LGBT community. (There do exist individual cities that provide limited protection.)  I guess that wacky Lawrence v. Texas Supreme Court decision from 2003 meant nothing.  Republican gubernatorial candidate in Virginia, Ken Cuccinelli, is trying to reinstate the sodomy laws their, so as to protect the United States from gay sex.  Poor Cuccinelli seems to be unaware that sodomy laws have just as big of an impact on heterosexual sex as they do “gay” sex. Again, it seems odd to me  when people  are so focused on gay sex. One might wonder what is hiding in Ken Cuccinelli’s closet. Click here to see if the state you live in can legally fire a human being for being gay.  Obviously, this puts people who are gender non-conforming at higher risk, not to mention the greater risk for LGBT folk of color being targeted.

I hope that today there will be much celebrating as people find the courage to use their voices individually and collectively to be Out and Proud as a Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or Transgender person.  Living one’s life authentically allows for great freedom and of course supports the (tongue in cheek) Big Gay Agenda.

Monday Morning Pick Me Up Brought to You by Facebook

11 Apr

FB Supports Coming Out

The coming out process looks very different for us all; it is a process.  Facebook has done a lovely job of creating a video about coming out and the anxieties of coming out. Thank you to my friend Cory for sharing this. Click here to watch the video by Facebook.  Facebook also does a great job at the end of the video addressing the issue of bullying and how to take action.

Born Gay…

6 Feb

Thank you to my friend Allison for sharing this wonderful NPR gem. While I may not have had the language for it at age five, I knew I was gay.  I knew I was different and even knew I would never marry a woman.  Now of course, it was 28 years before I allowed myself to look at the truth about my sexual orientation.  When I talk to many other LGBT folks, they have a similar story: they knew around age five they were different. NPR recently did a story about a blog called, Born This Way! It really is a lovely blog with great photos and history.  Looking at the blog is affirming and feels like you are going through LGBT archives. In the blogger’s own words:

So, some of the pix here feature gay boys with feminine traits, and some gay girls with masculine traits. And even more gay kids with NONE of those traits. Just like real life, these gay kids come in all shades and layers of masculine and feminine. And this project is not about furthering stereotypes.

Here is the full story from NPR.  Click here to see the blog. I also hope you enjoy the very telling pictures of my husband and me. Robert’s picture as Robin is one of my favorites. The picture of me is when I was 6 and in my favorite pants suit. I loved the belt. Oy! I should have known. I hope within my lifetime, we will all be free to be you and me.

Who were they fooling?

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