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Hate Groups Trying to Play Victim Card: Hypocrisy Much?

19 Aug

What, me hate?

First allow me to say how saddened I was to learn that a security guard was injured at the Family Research Council (FRC).  I, for one, am not a proponent of violence, regardless of the fact that FRC and the ironically named National Organization for Marriage (NOM) — along with their sponsored elected officials — are pushing violence as part of their “Christian” agenda.

There is a very good and very real reason why the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) has acknowledged FRC and NOM as hate groups.  Now closet case Tony Perkins and our ball of crazy Maggie (I can’t stop thinking about gay sex) Gallagher are trying to play the victim card. They say the “hate group” label caused the shooting. Good ol’ Maggie is even helping another hate group, LivePrayer, mount a $100 million lawsuit against the SPLC.

Let us have a bit of a history lesson before we proceed.  The FRC is rooted in White Supremacy and has ties to the KKK — big shock there.  Both NOM and the FRC have decades of blood on their hands for pushing their homophobic hate. Violence against the LGBT community has gone up by 13%, as have gay teen suicides.  Where is the apology from the FRC and NOM?  Let us also be reminded of the extraordinary misogyny of these hate groups.  James Dobson, the founder of the FRC (secret lover of Tony Perkins) was quoted as saying: “The biggest Holocaust in world history came out of the Supreme Court with the Roe v. Wade decision.”

What’s sad is that many in the media are buying Perkins’ poor li’l me sob story. The same twisted rationale that has him appear on news programs to provide a “balanced view” has them saying  the “hate group” label is too harsh for a “policy organization.” If any of those so-called journalists had done a bit of research, they would know that the SPLC addressed that issue, highlighting the aggressively hostile language that Perkins and the FRC use about the LGBT community. (GLAAD has a good overview as part of their commentator accountability project. Maggie is on the list there as well.) The crowning irony is that Perkins has repeatedly accused the LGBT community of exploiting bullied gay teens (many of whom committed suicide) to gain sympathy; now he’s hiding behind his employee and “friend.” How christian…

P.S. FRC hosts a big conference each September, the horrifically titled Values Voters Summit. They just confirmed a new speaker for this year’s event…Rep. Paul Ryan. That should be all anyone really needs to know about Romney/Ryan 2012.  Yes, Paul Ryan represents the values or the lack of values of registered Hate Groups!


Commandment 11: Thou Shalt Lie About the Gays

21 Jul

Thank you to my friends Reed and Christopher for inspiring me to write this article.  Thank you also to Alvin McEwen’s article and research, which I will point you to at the end of this article. There seems to a very thin line between sociopathy and the right wingers’ mendacity about the LGBT community. Spreading lies about the LGBT community is common practice among right wing KKKristian conservatives, be it the “reparative therapy” conducted by Mark Bachmann’s clinics with taxpayer money or the old tired lie that we recruit young people, as per Jim DeMint’s allegations.  The common thread is that lies about the LGBT community are believed to be what god has ordered.

Not a big surprise, but Tom Minnery, Focus on the Family, and Maggie Gallagher are some of the big culprits, just to name a few that distort–strike that, they LIE–about research and information to strike fear into the American population. Let us not forget Peter Sprigg and the many lies he has told to vilify the LGBT community. TSM has repeatedly tried to expose the lies and hypocrisy of these bigots.

I think it would be helpful to go down the list of bigoted liars that attack the LGBT community and work to deny us civil rights. Here I shall point you to McEwen’s article.  I also encourage you to click here to see how Sen. Al Franken exposes the lies being told by Lawrence O’Donnell from Focus on the Family.

The more we work together, both straight and gay folks, to expose these lies and hypocrisy, the better chance we have of gaining full equality and the civil rights currently denied. At the end of the day, we cannot trust anything that comes out of the mouths of these homophobic bigots.  What we know and can trust is that at the end of the day, it is love that makes a family.

Maggie Gallagher working her charms on President Dilma Rousseff (?)

26 May

Presiding with no spine.

Thanks to my friend Jennifer Lockett for inspiring this story.  Sadly, the United States is not the only country caving into homophobic evangelical bigots.  President Dilma Rousseff of Brazil has now suspended sex education materials, specifically the material that addresses bullying of LGBT youth.  Yes, after “evangelical church groups and their allies in Congress threatened to block any upcoming legislation,” President Rousseff then halted the educational videos–nice backbone there, Rousseff–great leadership.  According to the ministry:

Several members of Brazil’s chamber of deputies with strong evangelic Christian beliefs said the sex education packs encouraged homosexual behaviour.

Really?  That’s the best you can do?  I have to say that all the sex education I had that “encouraged” heterosexual behavior did not “recruit” me to be heterosexual.  How sad that the ministry of health and education puts its own bigoted agenda ahead of the health and welfare of all youth, specifically LGBT youth.    Click here to see the full article.

Women’s History: April 15, A Very Taxing Woman

15 Apr

A Taxing Woman

Up until today, I have found a woman to acknowledge and honor for women’s history.  Unfortunately, there are also women that make history for all the wrong reasons. There are women that have no sense of history or that buy into our misogynistic culture and become hateful balls of hell.  I find Maggie Gallagher to be one of the most dangerous anti-woman, homophobic bigots in the media today.  This morning, our Maggie will be testifying before congress to defend marriage (I had not realized marriage was under attack).  Maggie is the founder and president of the National Organization for Marriage, a classified Hate Group by the Southern Poverty Law Center.  Her appearing before Congress is much like the KKK testifying before congress to defend segregation. The hearing starts at 10:00.  Of course, the panel which Maggie will be testifying before is stacked with Republican homophobes. Click here to see the full article.  At the end of the day, if my marriage is threatening your heterosexual marriage, there is something wrong with you!

Wednesday Word of the Week: March 9

9 Mar

The Face of Profanity

This week’s word is: PROFANITY

Language that is offensive because it is rude or shows a lack of respect for God or religious beliefs – Macmillan Dictionary Online

One of the hottest news topics over the past week was the U.S. Supreme Court’s decision in Snyder v. Phelps. In a rare display of unity (other than Justice Alito, whose contempt for the Phelps family’s behavior created a resonant dissent), the Court ruled in favor of the members of the horrific bigot cult known as the Westboro Baptist Church. For anyone with a sense of humanity who is also an ardent supporter of free speech, this is an agonizing dilemma.

As we’ve noted on this blog before, free speech is a bedrock principle of this country and even people with distasteful messages have that right. From a strictly legalistic perspective, relying on significant precedent, Phelps seemed the most likely victor in this case. As Salon.com noted, however, there is an interesting, debatable point in the central argument put forward by Chief Justice Roberts’ majority opinion:

“The protest was not unruly. There was no shouting, profanity or violence.”

Westboro protests are notorious for adhering to the letter of the law. It is true that they do not shout (anymore) or practice physical violence. They also follow any local guidelines about protest and assembly assiduously. So far, so good. But no “profanity” in their protest? That is highly debatable.

Westboro is also notorious for signs that state baldly “God Hates Fags” or that bear cartoon depictions of anal sex (usually with the universal “no” sign of the red circle with a slash.) That is certainly rude and disrespectful. It is fairly clear from the majority opinion that the use of the word “profanity” really activates one of the slipperiest areas of free speech, that of OBSCENITY

Indecency, lewdness, or offensiveness in behavior, expression, or appearance. – American Heritage Dictionary Online

Obscenity is often not protected under the First Amendment. Are Phelps’ signs obscene? The Salon.com article does a good job of analyzing the legal issues here, and the most probable answer is “not quite” since courts tend to put pretty narrow walls around free speech exceptions. Enough uncertainty exists, however, that local jurisdictions wanting to put tighter controls on certain kinds of protests could probably construct laws that would restrict Phelpsian hate speech while not violating the First Amendment.

Freedom is tricky, and speech is one of its trickiest elements. There are clear exceptions (such as speech while on the job) and there are muddy areas like Westboro’s technically legal and morally abhorrent actions.  It is interesting to note the somewhat counterintuitive reactions to the decision. Former Phelps counter-protestor Romaine Patterson wrote a wonderful editorial supporting the decision. Some strict constructionists on the Far Right, however, have reacted against the ruling, typically lacking any sense of history or irony. NOM’s odious Maggie Gallagher rails against a ruling protecting hate speech, even though she is a regular practitioner of such speech. The perpetually confused half-governor Sarah Palin blasts the majority opinion and then backpedals confusingly.

In the end, I am deeply torn by this decision. I’m grateful that a conservative court did not take advantage of this situation to chip away at free speech. I truly believe that we must protect everyone’s speech or the freedom is illusory. Nevertheless, I find Westboro so repellent that any ruling which supports their actions – even tangentially – makes me ill.

Taking solace in the knowledge that democracy is hard, I’ll offer one word for Phelps and his ilk that is much less slippery than “profanity” or “obscenity”…

Extremely unpleasant or offensive – Macmillan Dictionary Online


New Children’s Book Celebrates LGBT Families

8 Mar


Celebrating Families and Love

At the end of February a wonderful new children’s book joined the list of works celebrating families of all sorts. My Uncle’s Wedding (by Eric Ross with illustrations by Tracy K. Greene) follows a boy,  Andy, on an enjoyable journey as he talks about his uncle’s wedding, how it affects him, and the things he gets to do in preparation for the ceremony. This sweet new book treats the wedding in appropriately celebratory terms, focusing on the wonderful family event through the eyes of a child. It reminded me delightfully of my own wedding, one of the finest days of my life.


The book had a great launching party at A Different Light Bookstore, including a proclamation from California State Senator Mark Leno. It is already a top bestseller on Amazon. Let’s hope that families of all sorts will share this touching story with their children as a way to celebrate love.

Sadly, I suspect that it will also find its way onto the challenge lists as it begins to appear in community libraries. (Right now it’s so new that it isn’t listed in WorldCat.) The charm-free opponents of marriage equality at NOM have already started their attack.

Please consider this book as a gift for any children in your life and encourage your local library to add this lovely celebration to their collection. Let’s join together to celebrate love and family.

Clouds of NOM

24 Feb

The Princess of Prejudice

In reaction to our Ray of Light from President Obama, yesterday, good old Warrior Maggie, Princess of Prejudice, and NOM are foaming at the mouth, (while hiding all of their secret gay porn stash) to fight for “Marriage.”  In a statement released yesterday, our Princess of  Prejudice’s lap boy, Brian Brown said, “we have not yet begun to fight for marriage.”

I guess this leaves no choice but for my husband and me to take up war arms to do battle. Why even now, I am dressing in my best formal/downtown casual wear (with great flair) and we are going to see how many hetero marriages we can knock out in one day. For I know that just one look at how happy my husband and I are together, it will force all hetero couples to go gay! Bwahahahaha!!!

Click here to see the full article on Jeremy’s blog.

Wednesday Word of the Week: February 9

9 Feb

All A Family Requires Is Love

The word of the week is FAMILY.

Although it seems straightforward, this word is a tricky one. What is a family?

Many prominent, outspoken groups exist with “family” in their names. Family Research Council. American Family Association. Focus on the Family. What do they say?

Apparently, a family is a mother, a father, and their children; end of story. Each organization has slightly different language and dances prettily around “other models” of family. With careful reading, however, the definition, and its message, are clear.

Let’s deconstruct that with my family, shall we?

My father was born in Poland in 1942. His entire family was dragged off to concentration camps; not one survived. A brave American soldier named Arthur Kahn brought him home to the States, where he and his wife subsequently adopted the orphan. Is that a family?

Dad died when I was 19. I was in college but certainly still reliant on my family. My mother and her parents together gave me the support, care, and love I needed to finish college and graduate school and set up a life of my own. Is that a family?

I had a girlfriend named Melissa for four years during college and graduate school. Her parents were divorced. The whole group comprised her mother and stepfather, her sister and half-brother, her father and stepmother, and two stepsisters. Everyone assembled in one place for each holiday and landmark birthday. Even though her mother and father were still uneasy in each other’s company, they felt it was critical to the children to feel a sense of community. I attended some of those gatherings; they were always joyous and loving. Is that a family?

My best friend, Drew, lives in Boston now. In 2008, he married his partner of five years, John. I was lucky enough to be their best man. Their love for each other is one of the most beautiful things I have ever beheld. Is that a family?

All those “family values” organizations and their ilk would hint (strongly) that none of these arrangements are quite right; at least one of these families would be outright condemned, albeit with christian love for the “sinners.” But what is a family?

1) a group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head

5) a. the basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children; b. any of various social units differing from but regarded as equivalent to the traditional family

— Merriam-Webster Online

I include this mostly to show how far into the definition we get before the narrow “values-” based definition appears. Notice, too, the parallel definition given equal prominence. Literal words fail to support these self-appointed experts. Where do they draw their inspiration? So-called biblical values.

These values are derived from the same source that tells us of Solomon’s monumental polygamy; that regales us with Lot’s daughters seducing their drunken father; that has Job’s happy, prosperous family destroyed while his loving heavenly father plays games with the devil. What a great source of family advice!

Those Faulty Founts of Family Fundamentals so often fall on their faces. Newt Gingrich, Jim Bakker, Ted Haggard, Larry Craig, the list of adulterers, chronic divorcees, and hypocrites on gay rights, goes on and on. Why do they get to decide what makes a family?

Now let’s look at my friend Drew’s wedding again. He has a mother, father, stepmother, three brothers, and two sisters. His mother and one sister attended the wedding. John has a mother and father and eight siblings. Not one of them was in attendance. They all cited “traditional family values” when rejecting these fine men. Is that a family?

I may be an only child by birth, but I have a brother named Drew Carnahan. Through his legal and spiritual marriage, I gained another brother named John Carnahan. (Carnegie + Callaghan: strangely neither man wanted to keep the name he started with.) They would do anything for me, and I for them. We are bound by love, trust, and respect. That makes a family.

Like much of my generation, I’m trying to reboot my life. While I’m struggling with finances and (lack of) job options, Granddad and Mom have welcomed me back into their home, no questions asked. That makes a family. If Drew and John needed help, they’d be welcome too. That makes a family.

Drew and John are a loving, supportive couple. They complement each other perfectly, truly becoming so much more than the sum of their parts. Their love and joy is contagious, bringing comfort to everyone in their circle. That, too, makes a family.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

With gratitude and thanks to:

  • Melissa, for sharing your wild, wonderful family with me and letting me share it with the world.
  • Michael, for welcoming into your online family with such warmth.
  • Phyllis, the kind of caring, crazy, adoptive aunt every lost lamb should luck across.
  • Drew, John, Granddad, and Mom, thank you for being my family.
  • Grammy, Gramps, Grandma, and Dad, your departure from this world in no way unravels you from the fabric of my family.

All my love, Lex

Defining a family…

2 Feb

As Iowa starts to crumble into a homophobic bigoted state, although all is not lost, I found this beautiful video of a young man talking about his family.  Zach has two moms and a sister.  He comes from a wonderfully loving family and is quite well adjusted and successful.  Here is his video. I’ve also had time to reflect on my family. I have a loving husband and four cats–okay so having four cats does make us a bit odd perhaps, but a threat to Marriage? a threat to Western Civilization?  I think not.  While I’m happy to take responsibility for my obsessive needs to clean my hardwood floors as part of the deterioration of American values, my GAY marriage has no effect on any of you fearful heterosexuals.  We have yet to hear our neighbors say: “Oh gee, Michael and Robert seem so  happy together. I can no longer go on as a heterosexual.”  Quite the contrary, our friends and neighbors, who happen to be heterosexual (Robert and I are very open minded) are quite loving and embracing of us–they are also very comfortable in their heterosexuality. This is a civil rights issue–you do not get to decide what I’m allowed to have. Thank you to all of our heterosexual allies, which now include Barbara Bush.  For those of you obsessed with homosexuality, like our Maggie, and NOM and FRC–you have my pity.

Does this strike fear into the hearts of heterosexuals?

Oh Maggie, Honey, We Need to Get You Some Help…

30 Jan

Thank you to my friend Lee Dorsey, for inspiring this story. Maggie Gallagher, the infamous founder of NOM and wannabe exterminator of the LGBT community, is now attacking women and their right to choose.  She recently wrote on her blog:

Roe. v. Wade decision encouraged women to try anal sex, which she describes as painful and dangerous.

The conservative firebrand says most women don’t enjoy anal sex and just do it to please their porn-obsessed boyfriends. Well, I guess that explains the look on Ms. Gallagher’s face.  Maggie, honey, I’m now really worried about you. What must your life be like when all you can do is focus on gay sex and now making a bizarre leap from Roe. v. Wade to anal sex?  Are you still listening to the voices in your head?  Click here to see the article on poor old, sad old, Maggie.

Maggie Gallaher Colon Just Bend Over

Thank you, Jarrett Terrill for this little gem as well.  Maggie has a twisted compatriot in Rep. Nancy Elliot (R NH) as she graphically describes anal sex and reports that she does not want that done to her.  I don’t think you have to worry, Nancy.  Neither you, nor Maggie are on anyone’s desirable list.  Click here to see the video of Nancy.

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