Every few months another online debate flares up about exactly what the LGBT community should call itself. Generally speaking, most people default to LGBT (or GLBT, with a slight majority favoring the L-first version). This explicitly calls out key components of a diverse group: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender. As shorthand goes, it’s fairly effective, recognizing the spectrum of sexual orientation and gender identity in four simple letters. Of course, it can’t please everyone, and like most compromises, leaves plenty of people feeling unheard.
Four other forms of shorthand see frequent use in the media and on the Internet. Many people opt simply for “gay.” Unfortunately, that leaves out any aspect of the community that doesn’t identify explicitly with same-sex attraction. It also traditionally applies to men, resulting in sexist language, however unintentional.
Opponents of the community typically use “the homosexual community” which manages to be gender neutral but also leaves out significant populations (although those populations may be just as happy not to get attention from these groups.) The more academic term “sexual minorities” is also used. Although this has broader meaning it also draws focus to the word “sexual,” avoidance of which resulted in the use of the word “gay” in the first place. Members of the LGBT community don’t want to be defined strictly by possible behavior, but as complex, fully realized human beings. In an America with a strong puritanical streak – even today – the word “sexual” still has too much power to stigmatize.
Many activists have reclaimed the word “queer” as a preferred descriptor. Taking back the word from the bullies and foes is a way to regain power. This is much like Bitch magazine co-opting a frequent slur as a way to raise feminist activists above their oppressors. For many, however, the scars from being called “queer” are too deep and too fresh to choose it as an identity. So what’s a diverse, inclusion-inclined community to do?
Over time, a number of other additions have been suggested to the LGBT acronym. The most common is Q, signifying “questioning” to recognize that many people are uncertain about their sexual orientation or gender identity (or both). Some also use the Q for queer. At full throttle, the letters wind up something like LGBTQQIP2SAA – Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender,
- Two Q’s to cover both bases (queer and questioning);
- I for Intersex, people with two sets of genitalia or various chromosomal differences;
- P for Pansexual, people who refuse to be pinned down on the Kinsey scale;
- 2S for Two-Spirit, a tradition in many First Nations that considers sexual minorities to have both male and female spirits;
- A for Asexual, people who do not identify with any orientation; and
- A for Allies, recognizing that the community thrives best with loving supporters, although they are not really part of the community itself.
That manages to be pretty inclusive, but it’s also pretty unwieldy.
Labels are tricky things. Most oppressed and minority communities have struggled with finding a descriptor that they feel embraces them and that they can embrace. The evolution of Negro to Colored to Black to African-American shows a clear transition from outside labels to a community claiming its own identity, although many with the community object to African-American. The journey from Indians to Native Americans to First Nations is similar, with many outside the community being unfamiliar with the latter designation. The transition from handicapped to disabled was successful (and codified in law) but the attempt to destigmatize to “differently abled” was just too awkward to find common usage.
It’s that kind of awkwardness that stymies the best attempts to find the magic LGBT label. The problem stems from the best of intentions, inclusion. People are complex, with multiple identities. Everyone has a sexual orientation, gender identity, race, religion (or lack thereof), ethnicity, and many other components. It’s laudable for the LGBT community to recognize that there is strength in working together and to try to find a descriptor that shows that intent. In the long run, the intent matters more than the label. Rather than take umbrage at a less than fully inclusive LGBTQ – which at least shows good intent – let’s focus on the work we need to do together to make this a better place for everyone.
Well, I’m pan, but LGBTQ works just fine for me. Also, there is a quiet movement among us to start using the term “trans*” with the asterisk denoting we include two spirits, intersexed, gender queer and anyone else that does not fit neatly into the gender binary. So I think, in that respect, many of those communities still fit under the “T.”
Thanks, Christine. I hadn’t encountered TRANS* yet. That’s a nice way to be inclusive. I hope my casual definitiion of pan met your expectations.
It is a perfectly accurate definition. 😀
traps are gay
All these strings of letters seem strange, and faintly ridiculous, to many people who aren’t L or G or B or T or (etc.) but are or could be sympathetic. So could we try something that doesn’t have to be explained? How about “sex and gender minorities”?
David, it is not the queer communities job to make the heterosexual community comfortable and make life easy for them, as the world is designed for their comfort. Nor do we have to explain. People can use the internet to learn and reflect. One would never tell people of color how they should identify, so it feels rather difficult to hear that we need to accommodate the dominant discourse.
michaek your community is a joke that only absolute brain dead retards actually follow
Speaking of brain dead, you may want to consider some writing and spelling classes. Shall I start a GoFundMe account for you, so that you can enroll in some classes?
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I remember trying to say the acronym in my Critical Practice Approaches with the Queer Population class….it was a disaster…took forever….
So true! 😉 It’s a shame there isn’t a version that’s at least pronounceable. That might give us something clear to settle for.
I posted about QUILT BAG a few months back. But who wants to say the Quilt bag community? 😛
I hope your argument in favor of simple old GLBT and/or LGBT doesn’t earn you a glitter-bombing. Urging umbrage avoidance is sensible, but self-righteousness is too much fun to ever be eradicated.
I kind of prefer a rainbow flag to any acronym–the full spectrum of visual light is a nice metaphor for human sexual and gender diversity (and is even subtly humble, since visual light is such a tiny slice of the EM spectrum), but widespread adoption of a rainbow hotkey isn’t likely to gain traction anytime soon.
Ah, and if we could but exude rainbow without words or letters we’d be set. 🙂
Thanks for the kind words and wise observations. No glitter yet…
Asexual (to me) means no SEXUAL attraction, so someone can be attracted to people in a romantic way.
As in: Biromantic (BI) Asexual, Heteroromantic Asexual, Panromantic Asexual.
To me being Asexual means not having physical (sexual) attraction to people but you can experience romantic attraction
My, aren’t you brain dead
Charlie, no one will ever accuse you of being clever, kind, original, or empathic.
The first thing I think of when I see the word asexual is self-replication, reproduction without the need for a mate.
But as far as people go, your definition of asexual actually makes a lot of sense to me. Since asexual literally means without sex, I could imagine four types of asexual individuals:
1. Those capable of asexual reproduction (hey, I said individuals, not individual humans 😛 )
2. Those who have no sex or gender identity
3. Those who experience no sexual attractions or desires
4. Those who do experience sexual attractions or desires, but who, for whatever reason, refuse to act on them in any way.
How do you feel about the term nonsexual to cover those without sexual desires or those who have them but don’t act on them? I’m not trying to regulate what you call yourself, of course. That’s entirely your own business, and I doubt even if I wanted to that demanding you identify in a specific way would mean much of anything.
your mom gay and ancestors incestors
My, aren’t you charm free.
My aren’t you brain dead
Personally I don’t think “asexual” means what you wrote it means but if it were then your statement later on “Everyone has a sexual orientation” confuses me. Do you believe everyone has a sexual orientation because you choose one for them or they choose one themselves? Because, I don’t have a sexual orientation because I simply choose not to label myself sexually.
I agree; this definition of asexuality doesn’t really make sense. I consider myself asexual, not because I don’t identify with an orientation but because I’m just not attracted to anyone sexually. By those in the community, asexuality is considered an orientation in it’s own right.
I see your point, Tori. The definition really should read “no attraction” rather than no orientation. Thanks for the clarification.
Ray, having a sexual orientation isn’t labelling. If you have light hair, you’re blond, if it’s red – you’re a red head. The same goes for your body type, skin colour, nationality, and on and on. You may not want to “label” yourself, but that is not the world we live in. If you consider yourself to be a “human being”, you’ve already labelled yourself apart from other animal species.
I should correct myself. Having a sexual orientation isn’t labelling in a negative way. Instead it’s belonging to a certain group rather than another by a process of elimination.
Peter, thank you for commenting here. Yes, the moniker of LGBTQ is simply a way to share membership identity and at the same time hopefully show solidarity in being visible.
I really enjoyed this post a lot 🙂 So much so in fact that I included a link to it in a post that I wrote here: http://wp.me/p3fdnz-7r I hope you’ll go and check it out because it was really awesome to come across someone who shared a similar thought with me. 🙂
I really agree that the amount of letters in the acronym don’t matter so much as what the acronym represents and the sense of inclusiveness its trying to give to everyone.
Thank you for sharing the link. The goal really is inclusion and solidarity.
shut the fuck up you lesbian fuck i bet your dog is 2 spirited fuck face
Oops! I think your hetero privilege is showing.
While I do agree that Charlie’s comment is a pretty textbook example of both ignorance and trolling, I also think that expressing disdain for heterosexuals as a retort is similarly ignorant. Stereotyping and grouping everyone together, especially based on the actions of an individual is kind of the opposite of inclusivity. Being considerate should be universal and not reserved for either the majority or the minority.
I see the P for Pansexual, but what about Polysexuals and Polyamorous, there should really be two more P’s.
Thank you for your observations. As I mentioned in the original post, total inclusiveness is pretty difficult, if not impossible. That acronym gets very unwieldy and someone still gets left out…
Lucie, Polysexual is the same as Pansexual. Unless you can tell me how it differs. And Polyamorous means you want to have sex or be in a relationship with many people at the same time. You can be polyamorous and be gay, bi or straight. They are not mutually exclusive. Just like you can be a woman and have blue eyes. We should really stop just picking a word out of a hat and say “here, add another letter”. I mean, come on…
Polysexual is the attraction to most but not all genders or sexes. Pansexual is the attraction to all genders and sexes. Personally, as a polysexual person, I am attracted to women, trans guys, and non binary people who have vaginas. Not trans women, nb people with a penis, or men. also, as a non binary person, I am not comfortable with any of the gendered sexualities like lesbian or gay because what is the same gender as ,e. No one, I’m my own
I am 60 years old and I really do not care what one’s orientation or sexual desires are. I agree that naming something for inclusion/solidarity is a good idea, and needs to be done for all sorts of reasons. But really, does it have to be so confusing? I have a few trans. friends, I call them by their names and don’t want to even think I understand what they have and are going through. Labeling is just that, a label. Too bad we all have to label everything in order to get what we deserve, like health care……..
Try using GSM (Gender Sexuality Minority). It encompasses everyone, and avoids mislabeling 🙂
That’s an interesting suggestion, Emma. I like the elegant simplicity. It does sound a bit sterile, but that’s the risk of shoving a diverse group into a convenient box…
this was an interesting article, as i was trying to find the complete and correct version of the acronym. i also noticed the incorrect definition of asexual, but that’s been pointed out. i wish and hope that queer or some other umbrella term can come to represent everyone in an inoffensive way, because i’ll personally struggle to be able to remember this ever-growing sequence of letters.
my only objection to the increasing inclusion is the second “a”– allies. though they are an important factor in queer rights, they seem to want too much recognition for being decent human beings (similar to non-racist whites in the USA; or feminist men, who are practically worshiped by liberal society). having “a” stand for allies makes them seem like part of the community, which is actually pretty bad when the following is considered: being non-misogynistic doesn’t make someone a woman; advocating for animal rights doesn’t make someone an abused dog; being an environmentalist doesn’t make me an ecosystem; etc. cishet allies in the acronym 1) take attention/validation of asexuals away, 2) essentially don’t belong for their lack of oppression. of course this is only my opinion, and i say so with the utmost respect of every unbigoted queer advocate.
I agree 100%. Allies should not be in the acronym. They’re not oppressed. They’re not one of us. What- we should give them an ‘A’ so they can pat themselves on the back for not being homophobic? To ‘honour’ them??? Seriously??? Sometimes ‘allies’ do the most queerphobic things of them all without even realising it, and thinking they can muscle in on our community identity is one of those things. And I can say that because I have friends who are ‘allies’. 😉
You both make good points regarding the inclusion of allies in the acronym. There is a fundamental difference between standing in solidarity with and being a member of any community. I included “A” for allies in the post because it is so frequently used by the more exhaustive acronymers and one of my main points is the trickiness of inclusion.
I would caution against discluding them because they can do harm, however. The extended LGBT… community is perfectly capable of harming its own. The “bisexuals just can’t make up their minds” meme and the exclusion of transgender issues for political expedience are two sad, frequent examples. Good allies should be willing to be challenged when they commit unintended trespass, but their good works and best efforts should be acknowledged gratefully.
Robert, I just don’t see how Allies are part of this community. Or Asexuals. This is a community that fought for “gay rights”, if you remember. Asexuals don’t identify with any sexual orientation. Pansexuals apparently don’t see gender or sexuality. What does this have to do with gay right or the community? Why can’t people have different communities? There are so many people who don’t want to be identified as belonging to one of the two genders (male or female), or one of the three sexualities (gay, straight or bi) but they are perfectly fine claiming their letter in our community which basically promotes a monopoly on a group of people who are anything BUT straight. So there can only be two communities? Straight or C@<NPIOU^RG:OKSB"PDKBN… I don't understand that at all. Is it any wonder that all of these people cannot agree on anything? It's because we have nothing in common except for the fact that we don't exclusively sleep with the opposite sex.
Peter, if it isn’t clear from my comments above, I agree that allies — while important to any marginalized community — don’t belong in the acronym. I do think it important that we are clear that not including them is because they are not part of the community itself, but represent the dominant discourse. I listed their potential “A” in the original post to show just how far some people go when building an “inclusive” acronym.
I strongly disagree tha we should leave out people who identify as asexual, pansexual, polyamorous, and so on.The struggle as I see it is to find a good way to represent the whole diverse group of people whose sexual orientation or gender identity / presentation fall outside the dominant discourse. We all benefit from working together as a community to make our voices heard.
Why would you disclude Allies inside of the Acronym just because your version of Oppression and bullying is toward those that are slightly different. The fact that we even have these names means that we should be including the people that help us out.
Allies protect us and make themselves Extra targets for being Tolerant of us. Allies get bullied and oppressed, Secluded, and attacked because they defend us. A shield will be battered more than the wielder will. They help and protect us in our times of need. to exclude them is to disown them and say they are worthless. We need to be inclusive instead of trying to destroy and demean or exclude the people we can rely on the most. Just because they are ‘normal’ doesn’t mean they aren’t attacked.Get Your ACT Together.
Please read the comments and my replies carefully. I am very grateful of the support of allies. Every marginalized group achieves at least some of its success from such caring people.
My point (and the point of the other commenters, as I read it) is that to be an ally is to be inherently outside the community — to provide support DESPITE the lack of a shared orientation or identity. If the goal is to find a way to describe the community itself, that by definition excludes allies. They have the choice to stay outside or get involved; members of the community are involved whether they want to be or not.
Saying that allies are outside the community they support does nothing to diminish their humanity, worth, or contribution. If anything, it it shines a bright light on the need for those who provide aid and support — often with some risk — because they feel it is right.
Mome: “my only objection to the increasing inclusion is the second “a”– allies. though they are an important factor in queer rights, they seem to want too much recognition for being decent human beings”
As a 69 year old cis gendered heterosexual female and an ally I agree with your objection. And I think that your examples are good ones. I do my best to support your community but agree that I am not a member of your community. As an “unbigoted queer advocate”, I follow Safe ‘n Sound Squamish (I used to live there) on FB where I found a link to this piece. I found it interesting & educational…especially the comments. I’m still learning.
Thank you all.
Sandy, what a lovely framing! Thank you for being an ally.
I am pansexual and I find the definition on here quite offensive.
The definition in this post came from a pansexual resource and is included to show the complexity of sexual orientation. If you have a preferred definition or a clarification, please feel free to share it in this thread to enrich everyone’s understanding.
What is pansexual, Alex? Please let us know how you define it.
Mogii is a good alternative that many use!
Marginalized Orientations, Gender Identities, and Intersex
Personally I think the acronym is more trouble than anything. Someone always has a complaint. They either complain its too long, or that there’s missing letters, or that its ordered wrong. I vote that we just use the catch-all term “sexual and gender minorities”. No one can complain then. And its more pronounceable.
You make an interesting point. Sadly, as the original post, the comment thread, and your observations make clear, there is no option that pleases everybody. Many people are reluctant to self-identify as “minority.” Others dislike self-identifying with any variation of the word “sex” feeling that it minimizes the complexity of their identity. It’s tricky!
I am pansexual myself, hell even fluid works for me and I am fine with being called gay too – whatever, as long as people know I am not a damn heterosexual.
Personally I am cool with “Queer” and with letting that term be our “mother ship” instead of LGBT or LGBTQ – I hate typing those letters when writing anyhow; I always mess them up and it causes me to slow down a great deal when typing. It’s actually getting pretty damn ridiculous now with everyone piling on letters to it, FFS leave it alone!
Queer is easy and you almost never have to explain to people what that means — i.e.. they know queer means not straight. Hell queer even sounds better than anything else too. I mean gay was good but then all the lesbians got pissed and said what about us! LOL **teasing**
I mean seriously, how many strangers or people you know (but don’t know how you define yourself) – how many of them would know what you meant if you said you were “fluid” or “pansexual”? I don’t want to school them on my meaning of the words for five minutes or more.
Call us Queer and be done with it! It sounds good, it’s easy as hell to type, and nearly everyone knows it means “not straight” and technically in my opinion it actually is inclusive of everyone (except straights of course).
And we already have so many cool slogans and we already paid the printers for all the signage and flyers and flags! 😀
“We’re here! We’re QUEER! Get used to it!”
~Mark
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Sorry, and let’s not forget we (the collective) already made great strides in reclaiming the word “queer” to meaning something positive and to be proud of!
I don’t think the word “queer” carries anywhere near as much weight as it used to when it was used as a derogative slur against homosexuals in the past.
Being called Queer is a good thing now and we should own it!
Thanks for your comments, Mark. I appreciate your candor when discussing your own identity.
Unfortunately, not everyone can embrace the word “queer.” I personally have a pretty visceral reaction to it based on how it was used against me for so many years. Reclaiming is a powerful thing, but not a tool everyone can use, and that’s something we need to respect.
Well, can we at least agree the acronym LGBTQ et al is getting out of hand? Geesh! lol
We need something better and as you said up above on someone else’s suggestion – GSM sounds very sterile and just another “term” we’d have to stop and explain anytime someone asked.
I’m going to repost my comment from a different discussion regarding the replacement of the LGBTetc to GSD or otherwise. …
“I wanted to come back to the fact the community was called LGBT from the beginning. That included everyone who was in the community at that time. Did we get new members? Did the community expand? No disrespect to anyone, but are we pretty much including anyone that does not identify as a Straight Man or a Straight Woman? This seems a little hostile from the get-go. Kind of sounds like the “minority” term should now be applied to them. Can’t there be a separate community of people who identify themselves as someone who is neither Straight nor LGBT? Like a community of LGBT allies. We welcome them in our community, but are they really technically part of it? Communities can co-exist, but why expand ours to the point where there is nothing that connects us within said community other than the fact that we are not Heterosexual? No wonder we can’t agree.”
Regarding the Q for Queer or Questioning. Correct me if I’m wrong but Queer equals Gay, so let’s get that out of the way. And Questioning? Who isn’t at one point? I don’t think we need to create a community around people who are “questioning”. I questioned my sexuality for a few years, and then I identified as gay. Others will identify as Bi, or Trans or Asexual, or, apparently, Pansexual. Questioning is a temporary state. If you haven’t identified yourself as something out of the LGBTQPRGSTBLTNBC menu after a couple of years, then you need a good therapist, not a letter in a community.
Thank for your several thoughtful comments on this thread, Peter. The tension around the word “Queer” is a great example of how tricky the acronym is. The people that I know who identify as Queer would not agree that it simply equates to “Gay” rather that it identifies a worldview which incorporates sexual orientation.
As for questioning, I do think it’s important to make space for people who are exploring who they are. This includes those whose sexuality is fluid as well as those who are grappling with their identity and orientation. However long that questioning lasts, it’s important to acknowledge that it is an critical part of the journey for many people.
Please don’t include allies in LGBTQIA+. They are not queer. They just aren’t douchebags.
A is for asexual, somebody who does not feel sexual attraction (this is a spectrum), and for aromantic, somebody who does not feel romantic attraction. One can be heteroromantic but asexual, or homosexual and aromantic, or any combination thereof.
Semantics?
I often use LGBTQ+ as an all-inclusive term for the community.
I personally think, instead of adding more and more letters to include everyone, why not just say ‘non- heterosexual’? I think then you basically will cover all bases that way and i don’t see how anyone could feel excluded.
Thank you for your thoughts on this. Unfortunately, identifying something in the negative (i.e., “non” something) is another way of othering or marginalizing people. Think about the implications of “non-white” or “non-Christian”, for example. “Non-heterosexual” also narrows the focus to sexual orientation, leaving out gender identity for example, thus eliminating the inclusiveness that the big ol’ acronym attepts to create.
I know this is probably a way late reply, but has anyone mentioned the MOGAI label? The acronym, which stands for marginalized orientations, gender alignments, and intersex, is one that does encompass the entire community as well. However, I personally like using the term “MOGAI+” since there are some in our community who may still feel excluded due to this definition as well as simultaneously adding our valuable allies in some sense. I usually, for my own purposes, gravitate towards the use of the “LGBT” or “LGBTQ” terms as that’s what most people are familiar with when it comes to variances in sexual orientation or gender identity but I like the term due to the fact that “MOGAI” is easy to pronounce and is very inclusive, even the words for which the acronym stands for is direct. The only issue may come when we finally aren’t viewed as marginalized but, unfortunately, that may not happen soon enough.
Chris
Thanks for your thoughts, Chris. It’s never too late to contribute to this rich conversation! “MOGAI” (or “MOGII” as I have also seen it) is an interesting alternative. The biggest challenge for me is in embracing the concept of “marginalized”. I certainly know that it’s a truth, but I don’t feel like labelling myself with it, especially when I’m trying to feel empowered within my identity. Everyone comes at this with their own intentions, but that’s how it sits with me.
I’m also late to this interesting discussion. This just came up at my workplace, where we publish a list of meetings for the general public, some of which are for LGBTQ people. For years, the only designation we had was “Gay” and recently switched over to using LGBTQ to be more inclusive. This has caused some confusion for people not familiar with this designation. It seems with every attempt to include people in a designation, you end up excluding someone. There’s always some kind of binary created, and no matter how many different types of “alternative” sexuality and gender identities we include, we are still creating a distinction from heterosexuality, hence a binary. We become, once again, the “everyone else” to heterosexual society. The fundamental problem seems to be with our discomfort with the idea of difference. I think of every individual as completely different from every other, entirely unique. There may be areas of overlap, but to imagine and name a group of people, let alone a community, based on shared “sexual minority” status, seems absurd, when other factors like race, gender, nationality, class, age and ability level play as important a role in defining us as individuals. What never ceases to amaze be is when people who otherwise might never associate, come together when something causes them to recognize their mutuality, around something like illness, or addiction, or hardship of any kind. I guess I simply don’t like labels, and see them as creating more distance between human beings, and less commonality, by their inherent exclusivity. They can only ever function as a kind of shorthand. A person’s definition of themselves is entirely up to them to create, and no label can replace the diversity of lived experience.
Why not “F” for friends?
Interesting suggestion, but please take a look at the comments thread for the discussion of including “Allies”. I think it applies pretty well to “Friends”. Recognizing supporters from outside is wonderful; including them in a descriptor seems a bit off the mark.
Thinking about “F” for friends, that could cause other issues, but Friends and Allies must be included! Without Friends and Allies, we don’t have a chance. How about including “F” and “A” and move “G” to the end.
BLTQFAG it is! and will be the official name of the Tom Swart Chapter! I am so proud to be the head of the BLTQFAG’s tribe.
I can even add it to our menu as a sandwich! How creative can i get?? Impressive if I may say so!
Lets go all BLTQFAG’s and be strong!!!
Someone earlier mentioned adding + to be more inclusive. Personally I’m not opposed to non-heterosexual, but why not just use the term + for anyone that doesn’t consider themselves Hetero.
Isn’t it interesting that Hetero comes from Greek, meaning “other”?
On that note, why not Hetero and Other. Or the Latin “Allius” so you are either Hetero or Allius?
Just ideas. . .
No no no no no no no no no no A does not and never has stood for allies. Allies are great they support LGBT+ but they are NOT LGBT+. A stands for asexual and aromantic.
Thanks for your comment. As I pointed out in the article, one of the challenges with this acronym is how many different opinions — frequently passionately held — inform it. You’ll note in the comment thread that there are strong opinions on both sides of the “allies” debate.
Ok…so BLTFAG’s did not go over very well at our first tribe meeting. I have been ousted as a leader of my own chapter! How can we argue over a name to call ourselves? I have not been this upset since I had a horrible case of hemorrhoids right before our chapter’s last rave! Although having some speed bumps was not the worst thing in the world.
This is just crazy. We have enough problems and now “A” can never stand for allies? Really?
Why NOT Kristy? And who made you Queen? I should know who a Queen is! And you are not my Queen!
Screw all this alphabet stuff for our name. Maybe we should just get a symbol like Prince. Who can argue with a symbol? Probably that b*** Kristy, but besides her, who would complain?
The list of identities that fall under the LGBTQQIP2SAA+ umbrella is so long that the list of identities NOT included is actually shorter. By a huge margin. In fact, the only gender/sexual identity not included is “cisgendered heterosexual”. So wouldn’t it be easier to define it as what it’s not? To borrow an acronym from tumblr (at least, I think that’s where it originated), maybe “non-cishet” would work.
Thanks for your comment. As the original post and wide variety of responses demonstrate, finding a snappy, satisfying label for a diverse group is tricky at best.
I have two concerns with “non-cishet”. First, defining things in the negative is inherently marginalizing (see my reply to MrsJDahmer above). Second, there are many people who “het” but “non-cis” or “cis” but “non-het” so the binary breaks down pretty fast.
I think a big part of the problem here is confusing sexual attraction with gender identity. Lesbian, Gay, Bi is sexual orientation/attraction, while Transexual, Androgynous and Queer is gender identity.
As for Pan, Poly, Omni, Ambi sexual they fall easily under the Bi orientation/attraction.
Asexual is not sexually attracted to anyone, but still have either a cisgender or transgender identity. Why asexual is even considered here is beyond me. I don’t know of anyone in history that was ever discriminated against for not having a libido. For me asexual is like calling atheism a religion.
All of these groupings fall into even larger groupings of Cisgender and Transgender.
Forgive me if this is an ignorant question, but I am a little puzzled by the inclusion of both “Lesbian” and “Gay” in the LGBT acronym. I had learned that Gay referred to people of either gender that were attracted to people of the same sex. But the inclusion of Lesbian in the acronym implies that Gay refers to just men. Have I had it wrong all these years?
I’m sure that by asking this question I reveal that I’m heterosexual. I do fully support inclusion, and would like to be at least aware of the conversation. I encounter the LGBT acronym more frequently these past few years, most recently while reviewing the non-discrimination policy at my work. I’d be thankful for any perspectives regarding the use of these two terms. Wikipedia wasn’t all that much help 🙂
Thanks for your comment and question, Ron. As I’ve tried to show in the article, full inclusion is tricky at best. Using both “L” and “G” captures two of the most common ways that sexual minorities address ourselves. I hope that helps.
Loved reading this, I proudly identify as the “B” in LGBTQ+, which is the acronym I use because that “+” seems to be a safe way to include everyone, lol. Awesome article 🙂
Thanks for sharing! I’m glad you enjoyed the post.
Wow, July 11, 2012 is the first comment to this article and prior to my comment March 27, 2016. So here I am April 6, 2016 just reading the article for the first time. I’m in the unenviable position of running a home care agency and wanting to know the best term to use not only when talking to people but also in written communication. So Dr Google I did search. I recently used the LGBTQI and I had other people asking me, ‘don’t you mean LGBTI?’. So I thought I better get clear on this. I liked the final A, ‘Allies’ as that sort of fits me but I’m not fussed if it is ever adopted or not. In fact I think it has become a bit silly to be honest.
It is a sensitive topic and you don’t want to upset anyone so I’m really appreciative of the original author whom I can’t see their name. I really loved the historical input about terms used for other minorities.
I used to ride motorbikes, now I just love watching MotoGP and other forms of motorcycle road racing and thought that the only alternative to ‘biker’ (which sort of holds negative connotations) is ‘biker’. I mean there are lots of different types of ‘bikers’ (certainly a minority group) Is it because the LGBTI community is referenced around the ‘SEX’ word that requires so much debate?
If the ‘queer’ community did feel like that term was reclaimed and gave them the power back why all the fuss about these new terms that no-one seems to be able to agree with. I mean we’ll all be dead and we’re still arguing about what word to use.
Greg M
Proud member of the LGBTQQIP2AA and any other letters that eventually appear alogside family
This is just crazy. We have a difficult enough time as it is with the hetros accepting us and we cannot even agree on a name. I suggested a simple symbol like Prince and now that it is free, let’s just take that symbol!!
I prefer two spirit. Does that stigmatise the free spirits amongst us?
The other a stands for agender. Not allies.
Thanks for pointing out another term. As you’ll note from the original post and the many comments, the challenge is that any given letter MIGHT stand for a variety of things and no string of letters can ever by comprehesively inclusive.
Jesus!
We need an s for straight
No, you don’t. The whole point is to represent a complex group of marginalized people. Comments like yours underscore how vital it is for those of us outside the dominant discourse to find our voices in solidarity.
In a desire to accept people for who they are I don’t want to lower people to only identifying them by their sexual identify. As more and more “letters” are added to the list of identity it seems to have become more difficult to learn all the nuances of how people see themselves. I understand that each group wants to be understood as who they are, yet I want to know people, not their preferences as their identity. What is your gentle comment on how to do this respectfully? Since I offer no disrespect or hostility I ask that you please respond in kind.
Thank you for your comment, Peggy, and your clear efforts to understand these issues from the outside. First, please refrain from using the word “preferences”. Sexual orientation and gender identity ARE intrinsic to who a person is. If, as you say, you want to “know people”, you need to appreciate their complex identities. Respecting the ways in which LGBTQ people identify themselves absolutely does not “lower” them. Understanding are respecting who we are enriches your experience.
I certainly agree that the proliferation of letters in the acronym can be challenging (that’s a central point of my post), but realizing that a broad term like “sexual minoriites” contains multitudes is important. The nuances matter, since they are part of our humanity.
I am outraged. I as a two woman woman am offended that you think my two spirits are a male and female. When in fact we are both female. Furthermore how care you!!!
Oh my! Outraged? I am sorry…for you. First, you miss the point of the article, which is that gender and sexual orientation are so complex and varied that no label(s) can please everyone.
Second, I respect your identity as being two-spirit, female/female. This could be an opportunity for you to teach or share. EVERY definition I found online matches the one listed here, with many (including GenderWiki) explicitly stating: “A direct translation of the Ojibwe term, Niizh manidoowag, “two-spirited” or “two-spirit” is usually used to indicate a person whose body simultaneously houses a masculine spirit and a feminine spirit.”
It is wonderful for you to share your identity and experience, but a bit counter-productive to shout at someone whose clear goal is to illustrate the challenges of inclusion.
Well said, Bevan. Thank you for being such a strong ally!
WAPOH….
What A Pile Of Hooey
Straight Phil, my goodness! Ushering in Trump’s America are you? Clearly you are not an ally.
LGBTQQIP2SAA is obnoxiously long and cumbersome to use – it’s so unwieldy that if someone said it out loud when discussing an issue, I’d almost have a hard time taking it seriously. What was wrong with just LGBT or, heck, even LGBTQA again?
Couldn’t we just drop all the random letters and call it “inclusive community”? I guess some would argue that’s too vague
Yes, I’m afraid I would argue that it’s too vague. Inclusive of what? The point is to describe a specific, complex community, something a fuzzy positive expression doesn’t capture.
Concern over exactly what to include in the acronym (or, if I may quibble, the “initialization” — an acronym is something pronounced as though a word, such as NASA) is weighting down a movement about people and their rights and well being. Inclusiveness certainly is the heart of this cause, but the cause must not become just repetitive scrupulousness. The important matter is the actual folks out there in the world, not an internal mind exercise.
I had always heard that the I was for identifying. For those who are the gender opposite of whatever their genitalia is defined as.
I kind of like Qetc (pronounced /ket ˈsedərə/). I don’t know quite what the traditional LGBT community was trying to encompass in their original intention. As of late it seems they are willing to include most groups that don’t identify with traditional cis-het “normal” identities. I am not gay, nor trans, nor am I “normal”. Queer doesn’t mean gay, it just means not straight/”normal” (strange or odd). Odd being not statistically the norm. If 1 in 10 or even 1 in 5 are “gay,” then they are odd (queer). Technically if the population shifts to be pansexualesque overall the queers would be the cis-hets. I feel the LGBTQ+ community would be very upset by this shift, but that’s for future generations to squabble about. It’s great that anymore Queerfolk can come out and are starting to have equal rights. My sister is gay and proposing to her girlfriend with 2 children soon, and I am extremely excited for them. I hope TRUMP-Mania doesn’t screw them over. It’s nice that (for the most part) people can be out and proud anymore about their sexuality. There is a strange bit that I think some people might be overlooking however. What about the fact that sexuality is still very taboo? Gay and trans issues are “vanilla” issues. What about everyone who is still targeted for their interests? Sure, someone could come out as being gay and barely anyone looks sideways, but god forbid someone come out as a fetishist of almost any sort. “Taboo” had a show dedicated to “sexual weirdos” for entertainment because they are odd. That alone should signify that many are looked at sideways for being weird. Furries, CNC, swingers, etc. Imagine if TRUMPsters found out that people enjoy CNC. Every major mature site that people use in private would be targeted to be shut down. I’m not gay by any stretch, but I am certainly not normal. However, I wouldn’t DARE mention anything I find interesting publicly. Not because it is illegal, but because of the fact most people are not comfortable with the subject matter. I am fairly certain I would not be looked at favorably by most in the cis-het group. In it’s own respect is that not oppression? What any consenting individual(s) do in the bedroom is no one else’s business, which, I thought is the premise of the LGBT community. So should that be included as an “etc.” group? All in all, Qetc seems to include anyone who might be looked at wrongly for being true to themselves.
Perfect article. Thanks.
Gay
As an omnisexual I’m offended at the lack of representation.
I’m just kidding of course.
Good article. Love seeing dialogue like this being started. Keep it up!
There’s a critical point that, it seems, everyone who’s ever read this thread over the years has missed, save maybe brianarbenz. This is probably a dead thread, but I’ll leave this here because I can’t leave it at this opinion-vomit where everyone needs to be constantly reminded they’re super-special.
By labeling at all, you miss entirely the point of inclusion. Labels are inherent dividers, used to organize groups of people into small, easily recognized and referred-to boxes for the purpose of general discussion. You’re trying to unify with a divider. Having this argument is like having every state in the U.S. claim that they aren’t represented in the acronym “U.S.A.”, and demanding that the name be changed to include the first letter of every state, right before each state’s counties claimed the same thing, and now you’re looking at a 3,150 letter name for the U.S. and AAABC+ will just piss off anyone in the +. Throw in the people who would claim they aren’t defined by the broad geological encompassing of their county, and you’re one step away from making the United States of America an acronym that encompasses every single first letter of every name of every person in the country.
Or we call it the U.S.
The effort needs to be in defining the group by a name representing the entire collective of every little snowflake involved. Queer, as a former derogatory slang, won’t work because of its deeply rooted historical value. Acronyms do NOT work for human beings. LGBTQ+ doesn’t fit in conversation (and hardly in writing), and offends all the pluses, as we’ve seen here. The need for explicit representation of every individual, multi-faceted, morphological combination of sexual, gender, spiritual, and even species orientation is SELFISH and unfounded, and will never be supported by language because language is (get this) limited.
How about “human”? Or if you really want to include everything ever conceived of, how about “statistically relevant”? People forget cishet is an orientation as much as anything else, just like “white” is an ethnic identifier.
Further, all the pronoun play and label-making in the world won’t fix what is considered a logical assumption. If someone sees a stranger who appears to be male, displaying all the inherent physical traits of a human male, and assumes him to be a him, that is logical. That stranger appears to be a human male, so this someone says “sir.” When a baby is born and the doctor observes a vagina, and says “It’s a girl!” that is logical. There is an indication that this is indeed a human female. You wouldn’t look at someone who claims they saw a pigeon and say “ze could actually be an asexual cis-gendered 2s m/m species-fluid raccoon-snake, you ignorant, insensitive prick” because you don’t actually know until the bird talks to you and tells you what’s up. It appears to be a damned pigeon. (Sub the animals for people I’ve known, and that IS an anecdotal story.)
The same applies here. It is not the world’s job to memorize, anticipate, and identify every combination of factors that can compose a single human being; a stranger is by definition an unknown person. Hell, it’s not even their job to SUPPORT us. It’s not our job to tell the world about every single individual human involved. It’s their job to ACCEPT us, as an existing part of the community of intelligent species on this planet. It’s our job to accept them. Heads up, most people understand that and simply aren’t activists. I’m fine with that. I’ll let someone know I’m bisexual, if that’s even a relevant fact. Most of the time, orientation isn’t relevant.
I personally use the term “LGBTQ+” as the “+” includes any gender (or lack of gender) or sexuality not already included in “Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender and Questioning.”
I think that there are few or no people who fit the binary model, just people who are either perceived as such or who are ok without a more expansive label. It’s implied in this acronym that the people who don’t find a letter to identify with are “straight”, but few people are truly straight.
I’m glad that these labels help some people in some ways, but I’m concerned that it promotes new stereotypes. Personally, I’ve always disliked being labeled in any way.
It’s LGBT and that’s it! We don’t need any other letters, because some dumb liberal thinks they are SOOO “PC” about everything. It has and always will be LGBT.
Is it possible to add an N in there?? you know, Normal? as now I and my kind feel left out.Why not just use all the letters of the alphabet twice?. IF EVERYONE IS TO BE EQUAL, YOU NEED TO STOP PUTTING YOURSELF IN A BOX AND WORK TOGETHER!!!!! I FEEL LIKE I’M TAKING CRAZY PILLS HERE. Ok try and convince me why LGBTQQIP2SAA is good or shout and rant about how you just got triggered by me.
John, your comment read rather inflammatory here. I’m not sure if that was your intent, but that is certainly the impact. Are you heterosexual? If you are, and you are referring to yourself as “normal,” then that is exceedingly problematic. If you feel “left out,” imagine how all targeted people feel every day, like queer people of color. I hope you fine a way to move forward in your journey of awareness.
I believe his point is for those who feel the need for some crazy acronym to represent them, you are by definition putting a target on yourself for others to shoot at. Just live life as you please and don’t obsess on what you call yourself.
As for how John swings, I would say he is as queer as a three dollar bill!!!
John, Michael’s response to you is far too polite. At my age, I just lay it on the line. Your comment is ignorant and petty. The only one doing any shouting here is you…that’s what writing in all caps is, isn’t it? It’s juvenile and adds nothing of value to the discussion.
Nothing is normal. Everything is normal
How on earth is this an acronym.
It’s an abbreviation and one that is actually longer than most words in most peoples vocabularies.
If it’s an acronym tell me how it is pronounced. Use RADAR, NATO or NASA as templates.
Ludicrous nonsense.
Lots of very strange terms to learn.
How about I just call you all ‘people’
I’m willing to bet that you do not identify as one those “you all people”. We differentiate “people” in all sorts of ways; Male / Female (or are they “just all people”?); Children / adults; by race, ethnicity, language(s) spoken; religion; etc. for a variety of reasons… some for helpful reasons & others due to prejudice. When government’s tell people of a specific gender identity that they cannot marry (and there are legal advantages & obligations that attend that right), they are discriminating against an identified group of people. Perhaps your suggestion is meant to be tongue-in-cheek? Still it’s simplistic & trite.
More specifically, asexual is having little to no sexual attraction
You sort of made it sound like we’re neutral or something
Okay, here we go:
LGBAPRQTIN2SQA
-Lesbian
-Gay
-Bisexual
-Asexual (including grey spectrum)
-Pansexual
-Romantic (the whole romantic spectrum)
-Queer
-Transgender
-Intersex
-Non-binary
-Two-spirits
-Questioning
-Allies
I still think Prince’s symbol is the best bet. I don’t think he will mind. My chapter of BLTFAG never took off. Otherwise no one here seems to agree, so we better go with ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ. That covers it all.
How about NS (non-straight)?
I’m hoping this wasn’t an attempt to troll, and in that spirit I’m going to reply with a rationalized explanation of why ‘non-straight’ is not appropriate (even though there was previously a similar suggestion which was rebutted).
Sadly, that term links everything back to sexual orientation again, which is only a subset of the community. Additionally, it’s a negative (something typically avoided when attempting to apply a label to oneself in order to reduce feelings of marginalization and/or exclusion). Tack onto that the various stigma tied to anything regarding ‘sex’, and you get a term which while endeavouring to be inclusionary potentially comes across in a confrontational and/or demeaning tone.
The intent is to represent a diverse range of gender identities, sexual orientations, and/or intersex people.
Unfortunately, finding a nice neat wrapper to apply to the community is something I don’t feel is possible. Queer, while probably being the most encompassing term (could apply to gender identity, sexual orientation, or physical makeup) has too much stigma for some members due to historical uses of the term regardless of it’s reclamation. Alphabet soup initialization is next most encompassing, but much more difficult to keep up with the various additions and/or interpretations. My preference of late to use is LGBTQIPA+, which while missing some does attempt to encompass a broad range and has the + to be more inclusionary. It also folds in more of the common sub-groups which are not tied to the member’s sexual orientation, to better represent that this community is about more than just sexual orientation.
If the object is to make an all inclusive group ….Where’s the H?
Y’all stupid! We got an I-D-10-T
problem here. Homosexuality is a mental disorder. Shut your stupid mouths and focus on a real problem like abortion.
#getabrain
You are a real breeder of hate. I feel quite sorry for you.
There are two genders lol
Good god this is getting confusing! I’m not sure what to call myself anymore. How about we add a K for kaleidoscopic?
What is this propaganda
I personally think that there should be two communities. One for people’s sexual orientation and one for their gender identity.
Why not just call everyone PEOPLE?
How about we discard all that and go for something more like “NSD” – Nonexploitative Sexual Diversity. That covers everyone (including “straights”), and makes the whole issue more like water. Who argues about about what water is? We just accept it as a part of our lives. Why should we argue about what is the range of our sexuality? The NSD Community covers almost all people – and excludes only those who use sex and sexuality as a means of oppression, a tool to control, or to victimize. Hopefully, those things are properly criminalized – And. Nothing. Else.
Asexual is an orientation in and of itself (not a lack thereof, but an actual orientation), and I am a heteroromantic asexual.
You know this is making all gay people look like PC idiots, right? Please stop ruining the public’s image of homo- and bi-sexual people by attaching this ideological nonsense.
You forgot B for beastiologist
Your bigotry is showing!
Psst. Its not an acronym. HUD is an acronym it’s a word you can say. FBI is an initialization it’s not a word you can say. This alphabet soup is not an acronym. Because it’s not a word you can say. It’s in initialization. That’s a distinction with a very real difference
I think there is great and quiet power in allowing there to never be a settled form, to let each upcoming generation of thinkers and artists add or take away or combine or multiply the acronym howsoever it happens, based on nothing more than the random historical circumstance of its peoples and their sexual experiences. Allow it to evolve, a reflection of an idea, a living thing to itself.
asexual actually means feeling a lack of sexual attraction, not a lack of an identity.
the second a is not for ally, it’s for agender!! just because you support a sports team doesn’t mean you get your own number! if you’re cis, heterosexual, and heteroromantic, you’re not part of lgbtq+!
Say what??
We’re human beings, in god’s image, all unique with different DNA. Vivre la difference.
Off to watching sports and caring for family, friends and animals.
Gods are in man’s image.
Why can’t we all just be *humans* color sex and creed ignored, let’s all just agree that we are homo sapiens and reject the semi comfort of our need to categorize
Gender excepted..,REAL IE BIOLOGICAL, that is. Cannot ignore Mother Nature’s fundamentals.
Asexual: lack of sexual feeling or association
Not “don’t identify with a sexuality” there are many types of Asexuals as well. Like demisexual, sexual-ish, asexual-ish.
The multi sexual community can identify any way it wants; just stay out of me and my family’s face, and don’t cram affirmative action down our throats.